It is said delivering a baby is one of the most painful incidents in human life.
Even seeing the whole procedure during my medical studies. was so traumatic for me. And when all the hardships were over, when the baby cried for the first time, that woman who was in the worst scenario of human life smiled. She seemed extremely happy.
So how and where do you find happiness? How do you measure the level of joy in your life?
Well if you are someone who finds it in the decadent chocolate cake in the patisserie next street or gets happiness delivered by the pizza boy, I must say you are probably talking about Pleasure; Pleasure that vanishes as the cake gets over. Happiness is much bigger than that.
Or if you think it is about owning a luxurious car or a countryside home or a million dollar business, step back and ask yourselves. Do they really keep you happy? The truth is that once we achieve a thing, we long for the next in the list and remain sulky again.
So clearly if you measure happiness with what you own, wear, eat or drink, you are probably wrong. After all, happiness must not cost you a fortune. Anybody alive shall have the bliss of happiness.
“If you want to be happy, be.” – Leo Tolstoy.
Yes as simple as that.
So how can you reach the merry land? Here are some ways. See if how you can be a part of the happiness bandwagon.
1. It is all about attitude, dude.
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Whatever happens in life, let it not mess with you. Enjoy it moment by moment and wait for the surprises and spontaneity of life. And as the saying goes “ when life gives you lemons, make a lemonade “ and sit back and enjoy the sip. Everything that happens is an opportunity to grow and live better.
Practical Tip: Always put your full attention on what you do in that moment.
2. Lead A Grateful Life.
“Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.”
– Fyodor Dostoevsky
Each and every moment of our life is gifted by the Creator exclusively for each of us. Whatever hardships we face, still we enjoy many blessings that we never asked for- the sunshine, the earth, this beautiful breath and so on. Realising them and to live a grateful life is what often takes to be happy. Spreading this joy of gratitude with gestures of thanking everything around us will fill up our life with more joy.
Practical Tip: Keep a gratitude journal and reflect daily on the blessings you enjoy.
3.Keep up good relations.
Robert Waldinger, the chairman of The Harvard Study Of Adult Development, which is supposed to be the longest study spanning 75 years of lives of 724 men, finally concluded thus.
”The clearest message is good, quality relationships keep us healthier and happier.”
Investing some good time and effort in getting back to those forgotten relations has more worth than you thought. And obviously we are not talking about the ‘face-less’ Facebook friends, but those ties that stay a lifetime.
Practical Tip: Make it a habit to get back to dear ones, once in a while.
4.Money can buy happiness. If you know where to spend it.
Let’s leave the cliché-Money can’t buy happiness.
In a CNN Health survey, most of the people who won the lotteries had a devastated life later on. When money came in a manifold, they just wrapped up in themselves, breaking their relationships and social life.
But what if we spend our money on others? Spending anything, from the least gift to someone you love to donations to the needy you had never seen will spread happiness in their lives too. And Remember happiness when shared is doubled.
Practical Tip: Reserve a part of your salary to spend on others every month.
5.Live your purpose.
There is a reason for you to be here. There is something only you can do here. Find that purpose of the life- may it be helping a cause or be it leading the cause, every role you play is unique and happiness is in keeping the focus on the duty even when the whole world falls apart.
Practical Tip: Identify the ultimate purpose of your life and take a step towards it every single day.
6.Enjoy the ride.
Paulo Coelho narrates a story of Nordic walking in one of his books. He and his wife discover it to be fun and start to do it as their routine. One day he finds an article explaining all the rules pertaining to it and finds they were doing it all wrong. He decides to correct it the next day. He tries to adjust the height of the pole, balance his gait, straighten his shoulders and because all his attention was in these rules, he loses the joy of leisure walking with his wife and drops the idea of following rules.
Happiness is not always following the rules and about happening everything as planned. At times we need to let in the imperfections unfold itself and enjoy the ride as it is.
Practical Tip: Be adventurous and travel far and wide.
There are yet another million ways to be happy. So look into your options and start the action.
“Don’t sit and wait. Get out there, feel life. Touch the sun, and immerse in the sea.”
Stay happy. Stay blessed.
(This post originally appeared here.)